Let’s talk about “This Guy”…. They call him The Groom!
In my years blissfully capturing weddings, I have come to notice something they all have in common: The wedding experience differs vastly from the bride to the groom!
Twelve months before, the bride stresses, laughs and cries as she plans the day of her dreams. She hopes she can bring every romantic detail to life, that everything can be….. Perfect. Let’s face it, the groom isn’t steering this ship, and it’s probably a good idea to keep it that way! The big day arrives and the bride takes a deep breath, relaxes and prays that her vision comes true. Her work is done, and she accepts that any imperfections are out of her control. It’s time to live her perfect day.
It’s 9am, and I arrive at the groom’s door. I see nervous eyes, a deep, uncertain sigh and glimmer of what’s running through his mind. “Photos?” He thinks to himself… “The photos should be of the bride!.”
After chatting a little and making a few jokes, I tell the groom that I’ll be with him in a few moments and he can relax while he waits. These words are far from comforting though. Not only does this day need to run perfectly for his bride, he needs the photos to prove it as well!
I gather all the groom’s bits and bobs and begin.
The establishing shots are done in no time, and the groom can’t believe it’s his turn already. He has to suit up 9.20? Realizing this man has a lot on his mind, I suggest a ‘rehearsal’ dressing, where we can get the shots we need ahead of time and he can relax thereafter. He likes the idea. We begin. The groom puts on his shoes, his cuff-links and buttons up his shirt. Easy enough! The more natural the flow, the better the photos. The groom’s shoulders start to relax – he realises this isn’t a ‘pose and smile’ kind of shoot.
The ‘business’ shots are out the way, and now the fun can start! The cavalry comes in the form of beers, boys and plenty of good-humoured banter. These moments are spontaneous, organic, fun. Nothing forced. The guys have a chance to start taking in what they are witnessing today.
5 minutes breeze past, and I’m ready to move onto the venue and leave the boys in peace. “Is that all?” asks the Groom. It was easier than he thought. Setting the tone for the day, we leave the groom feeling confident and excited, ready to enjoy some downtime before seeing his bride walk down the aisle.